salon has some good articles. you either have to be a member or watch a brief ad.

check em out:

Memo to Sore Losermen
http://www.salon.com/opinion/feature/2004/11/11/kumbaya/index.html

But especially, read, Perverse Pleasure is the Best Revenge
http://www.salon.com/mwt/feature/2004/11/11/healing/index.html
Oooh, this one is soooooooo funny. It's all about makin the read mad.